A few choice words that come to mind...
every time I go back home.
The people, the memories, the feelings.
Its like walking through a haze,
I never know which memory I will bump into.
All of a sudden a whiff of smell will entice me and remind me
of my mum's perfume.
A person's sillouette would remind me of an old love forgotten.
The colors of wall remind me of the home which was there forever.
The hug of an old friend made me feel loved and secure again.
Yet I met people who made me feel inadequate.
People who I might have met in the passing.
Yet they commented on me and my life as if I owed them.
Thats which sent me spinning in the twilight zone.
Vague and insignificant people, all of a sudden looming huge in my face....
their expressions distorted and mean.
All in all a trip back home is always surreal.....a trip down the twilight zone.......
December 11, 2007
November 15, 2007
beacon...
When I thought of you at first,
there was just a vague sense of familiarity.
Then when you came,
we shared laughter and tears.
Over time we became comfortable.
Now that you have left,
my thoughts have changed.
I now see the light that shines in my home,
and see you in it.
You are like a beacon of light and hope that shines in my life.
You have brought back the hope to live,
a purpose to exist.
You are what you are,
I might not like you,
yet I love you,
and forever will hold you in great reverense.
I see you as a beacon of light and hope...
always will...
there was just a vague sense of familiarity.
Then when you came,
we shared laughter and tears.
Over time we became comfortable.
Now that you have left,
my thoughts have changed.
I now see the light that shines in my home,
and see you in it.
You are like a beacon of light and hope that shines in my life.
You have brought back the hope to live,
a purpose to exist.
You are what you are,
I might not like you,
yet I love you,
and forever will hold you in great reverense.
I see you as a beacon of light and hope...
always will...
September 17, 2007
Sun of Gold...
As the sun set over the pacific ocean,
the moon showed up..all coy and shy like a bride
unveiling her face to the world.
The sun was shooting its last rays of light and was mixing
the gold in the azul waters like a painter has dipped his brush full of gold dust
in a blue bowl of water...there was a stain of gold where the
sun kissed the sea and was dropping out of view!
I saw her silhouette...gazing out the window of the moving car,
the sun and the moon chasing her in the window... and her eyes
drinking in the view ...thirsty and contented at the same time.
She had a secret smile on her face and a sad look in her eyes, as if remembering
an old ..fond memory or playing a story or a song in her head.
As far as perfect days go...that was it....I had the it all in that
one space....doing exactly what i loved.... with whom I loved...how I loved to
spend my time with them....it was just...perfect!
the moon showed up..all coy and shy like a bride
unveiling her face to the world.
The sun was shooting its last rays of light and was mixing
the gold in the azul waters like a painter has dipped his brush full of gold dust
in a blue bowl of water...there was a stain of gold where the
sun kissed the sea and was dropping out of view!
I saw her silhouette...gazing out the window of the moving car,
the sun and the moon chasing her in the window... and her eyes
drinking in the view ...thirsty and contented at the same time.
She had a secret smile on her face and a sad look in her eyes, as if remembering
an old ..fond memory or playing a story or a song in her head.
As far as perfect days go...that was it....I had the it all in that
one space....doing exactly what i loved.... with whom I loved...how I loved to
spend my time with them....it was just...perfect!
August 28, 2007
Fill the silence........
A dear friend told me i should not feel sorry for myself ...
or expect anyone else to feel sorry for me either....so I wont....
I am writing this just to express what is going on inside me right now...
Today completes one year of my mom's death..
exactly one year ago she was in the hospital,
she took her last breath.
She did not look into my eyes before she went.
She did not whisper anything.
It was nothing like they show in the movies.
She was sleeping one moment and then....
she was gone!!
I dont know how to feel,
I miss her...each day.
I think of something or buy something nice...
and then ...I realize she is gone.....gone.....
no more picking up the phone and sayin,"Mom!
I bought a new shirt...or dress..or purse....or..."
I want to cry but cant..the tears dont come....
I want to smile but the face does not co operate!
I want to run but my feet are rooted to the ground..
I want to talk but the words stick in my throat....
Recently a friend cried in my arms....for my loss....
still ..i couldnt cry!!
Why I wonder.....I want to.....Lord knows I do.....
but i cant...I just feel a deep sadness.....a hollow in my heart...
a quite I cant fill.
I just want to feel...I want to feel...I need to feel....for her
and for all that I have lost....
I want the silence to go away!
or expect anyone else to feel sorry for me either....so I wont....
I am writing this just to express what is going on inside me right now...
Today completes one year of my mom's death..
exactly one year ago she was in the hospital,
she took her last breath.
She did not look into my eyes before she went.
She did not whisper anything.
It was nothing like they show in the movies.
She was sleeping one moment and then....
she was gone!!
I dont know how to feel,
I miss her...each day.
I think of something or buy something nice...
and then ...I realize she is gone.....gone.....
no more picking up the phone and sayin,"Mom!
I bought a new shirt...or dress..or purse....or..."
I want to cry but cant..the tears dont come....
I want to smile but the face does not co operate!
I want to run but my feet are rooted to the ground..
I want to talk but the words stick in my throat....
Recently a friend cried in my arms....for my loss....
still ..i couldnt cry!!
Why I wonder.....I want to.....Lord knows I do.....
but i cant...I just feel a deep sadness.....a hollow in my heart...
a quite I cant fill.
I just want to feel...I want to feel...I need to feel....for her
and for all that I have lost....
I want the silence to go away!
August 9, 2007
ethics...
Where does it stop,
I met a few people who believe that its all fair in war
and business.
And I will not sound naive by saying that we should never
be unethical or that nothing unethical should be done ever.
Yet there should be a line.
If by doing something unethical at a miniscule level
you can be happy and not hurt anyone as well as not
tip the balance of things ...it should be okay.
I am always torn between wrong and right and the thing is
I am the person who would follow her heart.
No matter what my mind says. It might tell me
that something is practicle or is socially exceptable yet,
if my heart is not in it....I cant do it.
But then thats just me...what matters is, eithics are still
a very integral part of our lives.
It is the right thing, the humane thing to do.
I met a few people who believe that its all fair in war
and business.
And I will not sound naive by saying that we should never
be unethical or that nothing unethical should be done ever.
Yet there should be a line.
If by doing something unethical at a miniscule level
you can be happy and not hurt anyone as well as not
tip the balance of things ...it should be okay.
I am always torn between wrong and right and the thing is
I am the person who would follow her heart.
No matter what my mind says. It might tell me
that something is practicle or is socially exceptable yet,
if my heart is not in it....I cant do it.
But then thats just me...what matters is, eithics are still
a very integral part of our lives.
It is the right thing, the humane thing to do.
July 11, 2007
where the mind is without fear........
"Where the mind is without fear,
and the head is held high..."
Famous words from one of the most learned man in the world.
Though what is worth thinking about is....
Why does fear exist? Fear of what?
Fear of death,faliure, the unknown,the unexpected or of fear itself??
I have come to believe that destiny is all that matters.
Being afraid or fearing an event or emotion or even a person will not
change anything.
The key is to face it head on.
A friend once told me, think of the worst thing that can happen.
Now think that it has happened and how you will deal with it.
Once you know your plan-of-action and how you will deal, it is all
down hill from there.
"Que sera sera...whatever will be will be......"
A very powerful verse and an even more powerful song....
Its funny how the Gita and the Bible teach you the same thing.
Do what is in your power and do not worry about the consequences.
What is meant to be will be and what is not meant to be will never be
no matter how hard you try.
There is nothing to fear except fear itself.
Nothing is as bad as it seems.
Tomorrow is another day.
Time and tide waits for none.
When I was small and learnt these lines in school,
I never realized then how profound these lines are
and have changed my perspective towards life.
All I have learnt is, take each day as it comes. Take the
bad with a pinch of salt and the good with a smile and a thanks in your
heart!
Always keep your chin up and look life in the eye,
challenge it as if to say , "Bring it on....."
and the head is held high..."
Famous words from one of the most learned man in the world.
Though what is worth thinking about is....
Why does fear exist? Fear of what?
Fear of death,faliure, the unknown,the unexpected or of fear itself??
I have come to believe that destiny is all that matters.
Being afraid or fearing an event or emotion or even a person will not
change anything.
The key is to face it head on.
A friend once told me, think of the worst thing that can happen.
Now think that it has happened and how you will deal with it.
Once you know your plan-of-action and how you will deal, it is all
down hill from there.
"Que sera sera...whatever will be will be......"
A very powerful verse and an even more powerful song....
Its funny how the Gita and the Bible teach you the same thing.
Do what is in your power and do not worry about the consequences.
What is meant to be will be and what is not meant to be will never be
no matter how hard you try.
There is nothing to fear except fear itself.
Nothing is as bad as it seems.
Tomorrow is another day.
Time and tide waits for none.
When I was small and learnt these lines in school,
I never realized then how profound these lines are
and have changed my perspective towards life.
All I have learnt is, take each day as it comes. Take the
bad with a pinch of salt and the good with a smile and a thanks in your
heart!
Always keep your chin up and look life in the eye,
challenge it as if to say , "Bring it on....."
July 3, 2007
days.....like leaves on a tree....
Days could be like leaves, turning and changing.
Some flying away while some clinging on….
Where does each go…I don’t know?
Why does it go? I don’t know!
But I know that each one is special.
It’s different. Just like each snow flake is different.
One should be able to appreciate that we still have days left.
Like a few leaves left on a tree.
It is spring in our lives today but you never know….
Autumn might just be around the corner.
Today you feel your life is in full bloom but the next time you check,
It’s all gone.
It could happen that today you feel dejected that all the leaves of your life
Are falling apart but you never know, a new bud might just be hesitantly trying…..to bloom.
Never take your life for granted.
It’s never too late to take care of your tree of life.
Nurture it. Love it. Take care of.
As they say….
You only live once so make sure it’s blooming good.
Some flying away while some clinging on….
Where does each go…I don’t know?
Why does it go? I don’t know!
But I know that each one is special.
It’s different. Just like each snow flake is different.
One should be able to appreciate that we still have days left.
Like a few leaves left on a tree.
It is spring in our lives today but you never know….
Autumn might just be around the corner.
Today you feel your life is in full bloom but the next time you check,
It’s all gone.
It could happen that today you feel dejected that all the leaves of your life
Are falling apart but you never know, a new bud might just be hesitantly trying…..to bloom.
Never take your life for granted.
It’s never too late to take care of your tree of life.
Nurture it. Love it. Take care of.
As they say….
You only live once so make sure it’s blooming good.
June 20, 2007
My baby....my Einstein.... died
Yes, we finally had to do the most inhumane thing on earth.
We had to put my Einstein to sleep.
He was being moved around and he bit someone else.
No one wanted him anymore and I could not keep him.
So we did the worst thing possible.
We put him to sleep.
I just pray that his soul goes to Heaven,
and if he takes birth again may God let him take birth as my
son.
Einstein....died June 19th 2007 11.30 am.
We had to put my Einstein to sleep.
He was being moved around and he bit someone else.
No one wanted him anymore and I could not keep him.
So we did the worst thing possible.
We put him to sleep.
I just pray that his soul goes to Heaven,
and if he takes birth again may God let him take birth as my
son.
Einstein....died June 19th 2007 11.30 am.
June 5, 2007
How I lost my baby(Einstein).
It was like any other night,
we came back home from an evening out.
Fed and walked Einstein and got ready for bed.
As my husband told him "its bed time" and rolled his ball with his foot,
something triggered Einstein off. He went for my husband's foot and
tore off a certain amount of skin.
There was blood ....so much of blood.
I called 911 and the paramedics came. (Thank God for America).
My husband was taken to the emergency room where he got 25 stiches.
We got home at 5 am and tried to sleep.
Einstein walked around us , not understanding what had happened.
I called his Vet who then suggested a few options of which at the time
putting him to sleep forever was what she suggested was best.
So we put him in the pethotel and scheduled the procedure with a heavy heart.
I cried and cried. That was to take place 3 days later.
I was upset and the day of the procedure we went to pick him up to take to the vet.
There was a girl that works for the pethotel who asked if she could adopt Einstein.
We were aghast. Over joyed! Astonished!! Elated!!
My baby had been given a chance to live.
I grabbed it.
I gave her all his paper work and information.
Signed a written page that I am giving my baby to her from now on.
She was sweet and said I could meet him anytime I liked.
I cant even begin to say how happy I am and once again my faith in God is
renewed!!
I love my dog and the fate that was chosen was the worst.
I felt I had let him down in so many ways.
Though now I know he will be taken care of and loved like he deserved.
But I lost him. He will no more take me for walks.
Cuddle up to me in bed.
Lick my face or feet.
My home is empty and a part of my heart that belongs to him always....will be empty too.
I pray to God he lives a long, healthy and happy life.
we came back home from an evening out.
Fed and walked Einstein and got ready for bed.
As my husband told him "its bed time" and rolled his ball with his foot,
something triggered Einstein off. He went for my husband's foot and
tore off a certain amount of skin.
There was blood ....so much of blood.
I called 911 and the paramedics came. (Thank God for America).
My husband was taken to the emergency room where he got 25 stiches.
We got home at 5 am and tried to sleep.
Einstein walked around us , not understanding what had happened.
I called his Vet who then suggested a few options of which at the time
putting him to sleep forever was what she suggested was best.
So we put him in the pethotel and scheduled the procedure with a heavy heart.
I cried and cried. That was to take place 3 days later.
I was upset and the day of the procedure we went to pick him up to take to the vet.
There was a girl that works for the pethotel who asked if she could adopt Einstein.
We were aghast. Over joyed! Astonished!! Elated!!
My baby had been given a chance to live.
I grabbed it.
I gave her all his paper work and information.
Signed a written page that I am giving my baby to her from now on.
She was sweet and said I could meet him anytime I liked.
I cant even begin to say how happy I am and once again my faith in God is
renewed!!
I love my dog and the fate that was chosen was the worst.
I felt I had let him down in so many ways.
Though now I know he will be taken care of and loved like he deserved.
But I lost him. He will no more take me for walks.
Cuddle up to me in bed.
Lick my face or feet.
My home is empty and a part of my heart that belongs to him always....will be empty too.
I pray to God he lives a long, healthy and happy life.
May 22, 2007
things to do....
I went to the doctor for a routine check up after a blood work and she says...you are a diabetic....
now it took a while to sink but once it sunk in...I was shaking so hard I couldnt stop!
Anyway, that got me thinking that life so short and mine just got a little shorter...but there is so much to do still. I always thought I had years to come.
So, I started making a mental list of things I want to do before I die...here it is...the ones on the top of mind right now....
1. Have a Baby (preferably with my husband)
2. Buy a Jaguar
3. See atleast one city in each continent
4. Spend time with a famous personality
5. Go bungee jumping
5. Learn scuba diving
6. Leave a leagacy (if only a small one)
7. Do social service
I just hope that God gives me enough time to realize most of the above so that when the time comes to lay down I feel there is little I have not done or need to do.
now it took a while to sink but once it sunk in...I was shaking so hard I couldnt stop!
Anyway, that got me thinking that life so short and mine just got a little shorter...but there is so much to do still. I always thought I had years to come.
So, I started making a mental list of things I want to do before I die...here it is...the ones on the top of mind right now....
1. Have a Baby (preferably with my husband)
2. Buy a Jaguar
3. See atleast one city in each continent
4. Spend time with a famous personality
5. Go bungee jumping
5. Learn scuba diving
6. Leave a leagacy (if only a small one)
7. Do social service
I just hope that God gives me enough time to realize most of the above so that when the time comes to lay down I feel there is little I have not done or need to do.
April 4, 2007
where did she go?
Did she become a tree and has her arms spread out to the skies...
Did she become a fish like she always thought she was...
or did she become a bird and is scaling the heights of the open skies?
If she could hear me I would tell her I love her,
I would tell her she is still in my memories.
I did not misplace her memories like a bunch of old keys.
I have kept her in my heart.
She is a part of me as I will always be a part of her
Where ever she is...I would tell her I feel her.
Her gentle hands on my head.
Her dazzling smile lighting up my darkest moments.
Her soft and gentle voice, always there,
beckoning me...encouraging me to go on.
Her quite strength emboldening me to face my fears.
To fight the battle of life.
When I walk down a picturisque path...
I look up in the sky,
I look at the blue hills,
and the golden sunlight shinning or
dew kissed trees.
Those times I feel the closest to her.
She is a part of nature.
She is the wind, the gentle wind.
She is the warmth of the sun.
She is the pure sound of laughter of a child.
She is in the clear reflections of the lake.
She is everywhere ....everywhre where God is.
Because I know she and God are one now.
She is part of him as he was always a part of her.
I know where she went...
no where.
She is a part of me now...more than she ever was.
She is in me...in my heart....in my memories.....
alive...smiling....happy and without pain.....forever!!!
Did she become a fish like she always thought she was...
or did she become a bird and is scaling the heights of the open skies?
If she could hear me I would tell her I love her,
I would tell her she is still in my memories.
I did not misplace her memories like a bunch of old keys.
I have kept her in my heart.
She is a part of me as I will always be a part of her
Where ever she is...I would tell her I feel her.
Her gentle hands on my head.
Her dazzling smile lighting up my darkest moments.
Her soft and gentle voice, always there,
beckoning me...encouraging me to go on.
Her quite strength emboldening me to face my fears.
To fight the battle of life.
When I walk down a picturisque path...
I look up in the sky,
I look at the blue hills,
and the golden sunlight shinning or
dew kissed trees.
Those times I feel the closest to her.
She is a part of nature.
She is the wind, the gentle wind.
She is the warmth of the sun.
She is the pure sound of laughter of a child.
She is in the clear reflections of the lake.
She is everywhere ....everywhre where God is.
Because I know she and God are one now.
She is part of him as he was always a part of her.
I know where she went...
no where.
She is a part of me now...more than she ever was.
She is in me...in my heart....in my memories.....
alive...smiling....happy and without pain.....forever!!!
February 10, 2007
torn....
"So I guess the fortune tellers right
Should have seen just what was there and not some holy light
To crawl beneath my veins and now I don't care,
I have no luck,
I dont miss it all that much
Theres just so many things that I cant touch,
Im torn...."-Natalie Imbruglia.
These words always make me think....and ponder over my convictions. I try to figure out whether I am religious or an atheist, I have Nihilistic tendencies or do I actually believe in something? am I superstitious? I am so torn between these questions....
I am of little faith and yet I believe there is a God.
I pray and call out to him yet I do not practice a religion.
I do not believe in rituals and ceremonies and yet I do them for the love of my loved ones!!
Does that make me a hypocrite?Do I not know my mind..yes ...I guess I dont....but I sure would like to know for once where I stand!!
That is the good thing about certain religions, Christianity or Buddhism...they have certain practices that keep them rooted and make them believe in their faith.
In Huinduism there are just too many Gods, too many legends and too many mythologies....dont know which to beleive and which God to follow!
Mine right now is a self - religious crisis...if such a thing exists!!!
All I can say is my religion is humanitarianism!!!
Should have seen just what was there and not some holy light
To crawl beneath my veins and now I don't care,
I have no luck,
I dont miss it all that much
Theres just so many things that I cant touch,
Im torn...."-Natalie Imbruglia.
These words always make me think....and ponder over my convictions. I try to figure out whether I am religious or an atheist, I have Nihilistic tendencies or do I actually believe in something? am I superstitious? I am so torn between these questions....
I am of little faith and yet I believe there is a God.
I pray and call out to him yet I do not practice a religion.
I do not believe in rituals and ceremonies and yet I do them for the love of my loved ones!!
Does that make me a hypocrite?Do I not know my mind..yes ...I guess I dont....but I sure would like to know for once where I stand!!
That is the good thing about certain religions, Christianity or Buddhism...they have certain practices that keep them rooted and make them believe in their faith.
In Huinduism there are just too many Gods, too many legends and too many mythologies....dont know which to beleive and which God to follow!
Mine right now is a self - religious crisis...if such a thing exists!!!
All I can say is my religion is humanitarianism!!!
January 22, 2007
how much is enough?
I dont know...but I would love to know how much is enough?
They say "What doesn't break you, it only makes you stronger!"
Does it?
Each day as the sun rises, I hope that today will be end of my miseries,
something will happen or I will be able to do something about my miserable life!!
Guess what...the sun sets and I am still exactly where I was the previous day!
The feeling of helplessness never goes away and nor does the feeling of
abandonment. By God or angels or any other force that was suppose to look after us!!
Why cant life have a spell of calm and quite and normalancy! Thats what I crave for!
Just a few days or months of normal human life, normal income, normal car that doesnt
break down every month, job,house,children,etcetra, et cetra......
Is that too much to ask for.
I know I know, there are people in this world who have a far rotten deal,
I know....but sometimes it just doesnt matter to me!
I dont feel like I am a bad person just because I want all this while people
dont have health or food or peace or other necessities!
All I want is as per my standard of life, I catch a break!
They have their wishes and desires and am sure would be venting and ranting and
cribbing just as I am for things they meed!
Yes, I want to and I know I can make things work. I can change
my circumstances...all I need is a break, a chance to make it happen!!
Is there any one listening up there??
Hullo!!
They say "What doesn't break you, it only makes you stronger!"
Does it?
Each day as the sun rises, I hope that today will be end of my miseries,
something will happen or I will be able to do something about my miserable life!!
Guess what...the sun sets and I am still exactly where I was the previous day!
The feeling of helplessness never goes away and nor does the feeling of
abandonment. By God or angels or any other force that was suppose to look after us!!
Why cant life have a spell of calm and quite and normalancy! Thats what I crave for!
Just a few days or months of normal human life, normal income, normal car that doesnt
break down every month, job,house,children,etcetra, et cetra......
Is that too much to ask for.
I know I know, there are people in this world who have a far rotten deal,
I know....but sometimes it just doesnt matter to me!
I dont feel like I am a bad person just because I want all this while people
dont have health or food or peace or other necessities!
All I want is as per my standard of life, I catch a break!
They have their wishes and desires and am sure would be venting and ranting and
cribbing just as I am for things they meed!
Yes, I want to and I know I can make things work. I can change
my circumstances...all I need is a break, a chance to make it happen!!
Is there any one listening up there??
Hullo!!
January 10, 2007
So I was just wondering to myself....after reading yet another saga of love between a couple who could not fulfill their dreams of being together after family intervention in the Indian society way.
The thing I was thinking was... how much difference does it actually make to real life. These lofty dreams and ideas of passionate love and forever. Nothing is forever. Isnt that what life brings to our minds every time we endeavor! We live the best we know how. We deal with each day as it comes. If today you love someone and then you cant be with them....well too bad!! Thats just the way life goes.
As the years pass the memories fade away, when one day you try to recall it all seems like a distant dream. No matter how strong the feelings. Life moves on. Memories fade. New ventures are under taken!! Thats the best part. Humans are far more resilient than they think, its how you choose to move on.
Some get involved in work , some make new familes while some decide to brood for life!! So what I really came to realize was that life moves on and love,life it all is subject to change. If at a certain point you feel you cannot live another day without someone. Its not true. Life will go on. The sun will rise. People will breath.
Its just that you will have to take the first step and it will all be easy to deal with...sometimes...you dont have to deal with it either, just go with the flow and the tide will take you with it. Or I should say, if you dont fight the current,you will not sink and will eventually reach your own shore!
The best part is.....every one does...they might not like where they reach....but they reach none the less.
The thing I was thinking was... how much difference does it actually make to real life. These lofty dreams and ideas of passionate love and forever. Nothing is forever. Isnt that what life brings to our minds every time we endeavor! We live the best we know how. We deal with each day as it comes. If today you love someone and then you cant be with them....well too bad!! Thats just the way life goes.
As the years pass the memories fade away, when one day you try to recall it all seems like a distant dream. No matter how strong the feelings. Life moves on. Memories fade. New ventures are under taken!! Thats the best part. Humans are far more resilient than they think, its how you choose to move on.
Some get involved in work , some make new familes while some decide to brood for life!! So what I really came to realize was that life moves on and love,life it all is subject to change. If at a certain point you feel you cannot live another day without someone. Its not true. Life will go on. The sun will rise. People will breath.
Its just that you will have to take the first step and it will all be easy to deal with...sometimes...you dont have to deal with it either, just go with the flow and the tide will take you with it. Or I should say, if you dont fight the current,you will not sink and will eventually reach your own shore!
The best part is.....every one does...they might not like where they reach....but they reach none the less.
January 2, 2007
Parents.....or......servants???
One of my colleagues asked me....why dont you have kids?.....ofcourse I was offended at first by his directness...but then it got me thinking....(ofcourse I didnt tell him I had medical reasons).What does it mean to be a parent?Which lead me to observe the lives of some people around me!!!
I am an Indian who has come to live in the U.S. and find my fortune in the promised land! I am pretty new at the whole culture of it all, though I had read and watched American movies all my life.
One thing that struck me here, and made me quite upset is how a lot of Indians treat their parents. They come to the U.S to study or work or make their lives better... which is completely justified. Every human being has a right to do things to improve their quality of life. Yet, the thing about them that annoys me is- they get here, live here for a while, get married and then they *HAVE KIDS*. No No thats not the annoying part, its that as soon as they realize they cannot handle the kids,because both spouses are working, or they are a single parent or they need someone to baby sit for free or house sit for them they get their parents from India on the excuse that they want them to spend time with their grand child and they cant leave U.S(supposedly because of their work) so they sponsor their parents.
That is what is extremely annoying. I mean come on!!!! Just because they are your parents does not give you the right to exploit them. A parent would always go to extreme lengths to make their child's life easy and Indians as I am sure a lot of other ethenicities would give their life for their child. I know people have their dignity and I am sure a lot of parents refuse to be treated this way.
Yet the sad fact is, they are simple people coming from a world where they give love and respect and get a lot in return too. Their thankless children get them here on pretence of love and telling them they want to give them a good life. Once the parents are here the trap is closed on them. They are helpless in this foreign land. They cant leave as their children have the money and they dont, their passports are most probably stashed away in a safe some where.
Make no mistake! They are provided with all the comforts of home, except that they are taken advantage of in the meanest of ways. With emotional blackmail being the biggest weapon and the lure of being with their grand child.
I have seen the mothers of some of these thankless beings. They cook, clean,baby-sit,wash dishes and clothes,shop and so much else. Its like getting an unpaid servant!!!
Is that all that parents mean to people now?? Do I want to be a parent and be subjected to something like this ever? After the children move out...its their life. They have to make the best of it. Parents are there if you need support(emotional) but how you manage your life should be your own responsibility. You do not have a right to exploit sweet,innocent and especially old people.
Yes, its a good gesture to invite your parents to live with you...but only if your intention is to have their company not their services. They did not give us birth to see the day when you would treat them so because you or your wife dont have time or the ability to work out your life.
I think it is disgusting!!!
Our Parents are the roots of the tree of our lives, they deserve our love and respect not to be treated as servants because they have retired after all the years they put in, in bringing us up and sacrificing their selves for the whimps of a child who grew up to be a thankless jerk!!!
I am an Indian who has come to live in the U.S. and find my fortune in the promised land! I am pretty new at the whole culture of it all, though I had read and watched American movies all my life.
One thing that struck me here, and made me quite upset is how a lot of Indians treat their parents. They come to the U.S to study or work or make their lives better... which is completely justified. Every human being has a right to do things to improve their quality of life. Yet, the thing about them that annoys me is- they get here, live here for a while, get married and then they *HAVE KIDS*. No No thats not the annoying part, its that as soon as they realize they cannot handle the kids,because both spouses are working, or they are a single parent or they need someone to baby sit for free or house sit for them they get their parents from India on the excuse that they want them to spend time with their grand child and they cant leave U.S(supposedly because of their work) so they sponsor their parents.
That is what is extremely annoying. I mean come on!!!! Just because they are your parents does not give you the right to exploit them. A parent would always go to extreme lengths to make their child's life easy and Indians as I am sure a lot of other ethenicities would give their life for their child. I know people have their dignity and I am sure a lot of parents refuse to be treated this way.
Yet the sad fact is, they are simple people coming from a world where they give love and respect and get a lot in return too. Their thankless children get them here on pretence of love and telling them they want to give them a good life. Once the parents are here the trap is closed on them. They are helpless in this foreign land. They cant leave as their children have the money and they dont, their passports are most probably stashed away in a safe some where.
Make no mistake! They are provided with all the comforts of home, except that they are taken advantage of in the meanest of ways. With emotional blackmail being the biggest weapon and the lure of being with their grand child.
I have seen the mothers of some of these thankless beings. They cook, clean,baby-sit,wash dishes and clothes,shop and so much else. Its like getting an unpaid servant!!!
Is that all that parents mean to people now?? Do I want to be a parent and be subjected to something like this ever? After the children move out...its their life. They have to make the best of it. Parents are there if you need support(emotional) but how you manage your life should be your own responsibility. You do not have a right to exploit sweet,innocent and especially old people.
Yes, its a good gesture to invite your parents to live with you...but only if your intention is to have their company not their services. They did not give us birth to see the day when you would treat them so because you or your wife dont have time or the ability to work out your life.
I think it is disgusting!!!
Our Parents are the roots of the tree of our lives, they deserve our love and respect not to be treated as servants because they have retired after all the years they put in, in bringing us up and sacrificing their selves for the whimps of a child who grew up to be a thankless jerk!!!
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